I am married to an ENTJ and we make it work wonderfully! (I am a male INTJ)
Tons of stimulating conversation, working on things to make them better, and organization. Those are the strengths, and amazing to have inside of a marriage.
Some areas we have problems:
I do get caught up in my head… all the time, and it can be hard on her when I’m not able to immediately talk about it. I would encourage an understanding of this for both people. For her to understand this is what I do, it is really nice when she gives me space. For me to understand she needs me to talk about what I’m thinking, it has helped me not stay “under” so long. I literally say stuff like “Well, I’m still thinking this stuff through, but here’s kind of a rough draft of what I’m thinking about…”
Another problem area is social time. I need alone time, from time to time. That’s the introvert in me. She like, never needs alone time… it kills her to be alone. So, we literally plan for this. She has friends she hangs with, and I go for walks, tink in the garage, or just sit down by myself like a creep! But, seriously, it’s like finding a level in our relationship and it really helps.
None of the negatives outweigh our positives. We are madly in love… and hella strategic in our long term planning, money handling, and parenting. Just manage the tension areas and enjoy the benefits, because they are certainly worth it for us.