The reason I’m asking is I’ve somehow caught myself in a situation in which I have met someone who already has a fiancée. Now before you start throwing rocks/diatribes/lectures at me, I have to say here that I absolutely detest people who cheat and would never do it myself nor be a part of it since I hold myself to one of those people who has perfect control of her emotions and her desires. (A quality I find attractive in men as well as I rarely like idiots who only think with their lust and possess no self control).
But I wonder if I may be too rigid in my moral stance here? When would it be appropriate to “steal someone away”? BTW, in all honesty, I don’t think people can be stolen away, and I respect men to make their own decisions and to properly end relationships before starting a new one without me having to ask him to do it, although I might’ve been a catalyst, I rather not be involved in his decision making process. The old “he has to choose me of his own free will than me giving him an ultimatum or making him do it” sort of thing. However, I’m beginning to think ENTJ men (this one is an ENTJ ) likes a bit of catty fighting behaviour over his affections to make him feel desired and wanted. Of course, being an ENTJ female, I would never lower myself to such despicable acts of daytime soap operaish behaviour.
So I’ve decided on the avenues in which to capture this man’s affections and it occurred to me that is it similar to how I would like to be seduced myself
So ENTJs- is it OK to steal a man/woman away who is already in another relationship? BTW, his fiancée is a really lovely woman, and if she were a man, I would want to date her myself. However, my instincts tell me that I must have him for myself, although I would be OK if he were to be happy with her as well, without me as I am at a point where I haven’t completely fallen for him, but I could see that the more time we spend together, the greater my feelings for him begin to intensify.
Although he isn’t really what I considered my type per se, I found that interaction with him has an additive effect, where my attraction for him magnifies as I get to know him more, whereas with previous men, I found myself becoming less interested after time, even if initially I was extremely interested and would only stay in the relationship as a matter of duty and guilt.
With him it’s that’s ENTJ + ENTJ connexion. I can see when he’s playing games or testing me, because it’s something I would do myself. Not out of malice of course, but to see how invested the other person is in me. I also feel as if we can teach each other many things, as he has a scientific background, and I never tire of his analyses and observations. In fact, when I act dour, he points out the positive, despite being the cynical person that he is and vice versa when he acts like a misanthrope. No other man has ever made me laugh so much before, and we have that elusive chemistry in which sex would probably be a series of terrific fireworks if only he succombs to me completely.
And yes, of course I feel bad for his fiancée and she deserves the utmost respect, but let’s be perfectly honest, he and I are better suited to be together to conquer the world. So why not?
ENTJs- comments and analyses please.