OBVIOUSLY there’s some major differences but just wondering if anyone has ever been in a relationship with an ESFP and were able to either “make it work” or come to discover the dynamic as a “balanced strength” approach?
Looking for any and all insights possible! 
I am a enfj. I always end up with enfj women. We just hit it off so well. We laugh a lot to
Sometimes I am asking myself the following strange question. Why the people feel the need to ask question like the above.
There are so many women on this planet, that is it even feasible to bother with questions like “why it didn’t work”.
I dated an ISFP before. It only didn’t work out because he turned out to be a narcissist. Opps. He was so bright, but obvious things to me because I’m intuitive and extroverted weren’t always so obvious to him. His emotions were all over the place and he lived his life based on how he felt. I think if he’d been an extrovert like the personality type you mentioned we would have talked more. People drained him and that includes me. I recommend letting them have their moments and time to change their minds. I make quick decisions, he didn’t. Hope this helps.
Lol. Totally been there. Didn’t end up working out, but there were other things involved than strictly personality. We got along great until we had to get something done, then I found myself doing most of the work.
GTFO then. Enfj should not be on here why are all of you such narcissisctic attention wh***?
Seriously out of the 11 I know of all enfjs I’ve met are glorrified normies or who think they have super powers or something. It’s so disgusting. Also my dad is enfj which… Ooops sorrry… So to continue your thought. Esfp are super cool to me but the girl’s seem too judgy. The male ones I get along with because I enjoy their sense of humour. But besides that the esfp girls seem too into aesthetics for me to handle. However they love compliments on their style and it’s easy for me to get along with them bc we share a similar sense of values.
I am an ESFP. There is an ENTJ I like… that’s why I’m here. But I know a E NtJ/ESFP couple. I’ve known them for years, and they get along great and it works great for them. I also know an ENTJ/ESTP couple… there is a little more friction in that one but still a long lasting and stable marriage.
Watching the couple I know… I think they have definitely made each other better. I definitely think they challenge each other to grow in ways they would not have otherwise. I knew the husband years before he met and married her. And I’ve seen her grow and mature over the years. I think they are very patient with each other… they discuss things… they say they never argue. Both entjs and esfps are pretty rational types… (not calling an esfp A Rational… but they can be rational. So if you’re patient with them and explain your point of view… and vice versa… there is a lot to learn there from each other.
No need to make your life miserable. Have all sex you want with this ESFP and enjoy the fun time but don’t bound yourself to her chaos and uncontrol of time, emotions, etc., unless you want to throw your life to the toilet. There are many stories in facebook groups of guys who married ESFPs and then ended in dramatic divorces. No point. This is my advice as an ENTJ-female.