So, overall I am in a happy relationship with my ENTJ man.
We have many things in common and usually he organises what we do and how we do it. I’m fine with that. And he is a considerate guy who tries to take care of both our preferences. I also often come along to ‘his’ things because it is fun to be together, or something is important to him, or I am simply curious.
However, sometimes I would like him to come along to some of the things that I like and care about. And that is really difficult. What is the best way to motivate him to let me take the lead?
Here is one small but typical example, I suggested to go to a certain theatre play that I like - he agreed to coming along, he chose the date and I organised the tickets. Now that we are getting close to the actual day of the show he is criticising and nagging that the theatre is in a part of town he does not know, about how many hours the play will last, why we are watching it in English (not our native language and I speak it somewhat better than him). I can try to ignore all this since he has agreed to come, but still it leaves a bitter taste with me, he is spoiling the fun for me.
I have told him that and I hope he stops the nagging now. But is there something else I can do so that there is no nagging at all? How can I make him join in?