I know that these questions have been thrown about quite a bit in the MBTI community, but I want to ask a quite specific question regarding the ‘perfect partner’ attitude of intp+entj compatibility:
Now as a bisexual male intp, i have no problem with this reasoning; I find confident, intelligent and ambitious people very attractive - and this is not such a problem when pursuing (or being pursued by) men, who may find my laid-backedness endearing (even if they are put off by my stoicism), however, when one comes across a woman who has all (or even just two) of these traits, my lax-intp attitude becomes ‘weakness’ and a sign that i am not a ‘real man’.
Curious, I came to find that even in several entj forums, entj women, specifically, voiced how put off they were by intp traits when they were listed.
Now this isn’t me complaining or WTF-ing, I’m just curious as to the reason(s) behind this.
I know that one should take the MBTI with a pinch of salt and that INTPs are apparently the hardest type to get along with romantically.
Personally I have come to three possible conclusions:
A) This may just be me, as I grew up in a very matriarchal family, so I can come across as somewhat submissive towards women.
B) Both men and women (regardless of type) feel a need to conform to what is expected of their gender, even if that means chasing men/women who would not be good for them.
C) Whoever came up with this idea was talking out of their arse. And was going by theory rather than actual statistical evidence.