Title says it all. I’m good friends with an ENTJ and would like some insight on a potential relationship.
So far the signs that he might be interested in me are …drums roll… non-existent.
Or, more specifically, if I think of anything one would do with someone they’re romantically interested in -e.g. texting a lot, physical contact, hanging out with the other person, inviting them at home - he already does that with every other friend. So far his behaviour with me isn’t any different than with anyone else. Or, he behaves with everyone as if they were his girlfriend/boyfriend, depending on your point of view.
However, it’s not unknown that NTs tend to have some problems with expressing emotions. Most noticeably, I’m not treating him any different than my other friends either. To be precise, I do treat him differently, as I am more attentive to his problems than the others’ - I fixed his computer twice without complaining about “you broke it again” - but the difference is more in my attitude than in my outward behaviour, so I doubt anyone would notice.
So, I’m stuck in a situation where I’m clearly not giving any signs of interest - mainly because I wouldn’t know how to - and neither is he - either because he’s in a a similar situation as me or, much more likely, because he’s not interested.
I wouldn’t risk being so bold as to tell him outright because I don’t want to ruin a good friendship, and he’s previously expressed annoyance at people interested in him, though that might be because they were too pestering in their approach - in his own words they were “stalking” him - but I don’t want to give up either.
What do other ENTJs think of the situation?
P.S. bear in mind that I’m not in the US, so cultural differences ftw.
P.P.S. my English should be a bit rusty, sorry about it.