you’re an ENFP that is parenting an ENTJ. Wow…
My nuclear family are all I_F_.
ENTJ children comes with instructions. You just have to ask for it.
Ask her what she likes and doesn’t like and why. What bothers her about people and the world.
When you take her to a science museum. Ask her what’s wrong with something or ask for the flaws, but at the very end, ask her what she likes about it and how can she apply a few things from it.
Praise. My family didn’t praise me much. Also, be genuine in your praises. We can smell bullshit and it can be offensive. Keep your praises short and concise. Less to be skeptic about.
ENTJs will experience inferiority very often. Jealousy from other people. Feelers are sensitive to feeling small and weak and useless in the presence of an ENTJ. ENTJ’s will put out a vibe that can intimidate people. My family is intimidated by my potential. My father was the emo blacksheep of his family because all his brothers were successful and honor students. He shuts down easily when he feels outdone and outclassed. My father hates feeling small and seen as useless so he takes out his frustrations on me when I show signs that I’m a very talented/capable person. Do not make my father’s mistake.
If your daughter confronts you with a list of parental errors you’ve made, embrace it. That’s their way of telling you that they wish to collaborate and have an effective/good relationship with you.
Your child is not sneaky. They’re calculating. My mother always gave me a good scolding when she sees me being sneaky. I’m not, I’m calculating and formulating things on how to be effective in my objectives.
As a feeler, you will avoid confrontations like a woman would avoid a mouse. Undo that. You can’t learn and improve if you can’t sit and discuss the problems like civilised human beings. Always act work-professional around her if you want her to feel safe. Sit and discuss things. Talk about ideas and how to apply them. You have a special child. You’re blessed with an ENTJ. ENTJ females are the best. They can be reasoned with.
Put your daughter on the soccer team. Most likely, she’ll be like my cousin…the goalie, because my cousin feels like it’s her versus everyone. =]